Week 30:Practice Acceptance

When the vet tech returned to let us know that they weren’t going to need a spinal tap, I knew. They found something during the MRI that explained the sneezing and seizure, and it wasn’t good.

Minutes passed, feeling like days, before the doctor came out to give us the news. There was a large mass in the nasal cavity that had grown into his brain. It was inoperable. My heart raced, head dropped, and tears welled up.

Life as we knew it would never be the same.

Louis had been our baby since he was eight weeks old. We fed him organic grain-free food, rushed him to the vet if anything seemed off, and tended to his every wish. We expected to have him five more years. I mean, 12 to 15 years is the average life span of a pug and he was in tiptop shape.

Or so we thought.

Everything changed that brisk January day and collapsed when we said goodbye in April. The unconditional love of a pet is like no other and he was a special case. I may have been known to reference him as “the love of my life.”

When Tim and I began the adoption process, I said to a colleague, “If I don’t get a dog soon, I may die.” Okay, slightly Scarlett O’Hara dramatic, but also telling of how integrated and important Louis was in my life.

Once we signed the paperwork to adopt our new rescue Mookie {photo above}, I felt joy that I hadn’t experienced since before Louis’ diagnosis. It was palpable. There was a newfound sense of hope and an outlet for overflowing love.

I recently began reading Writing to Heal the Soul: Transforming Grief and Loss Through Writing and the author begins by unpacking expectations. How was it supposed to be? What did you expect? What was the change of plans?

This is an interesting exercise for so many of the losses that transpire within lives. Loss of jobs, friendships, love, family, health, children, pets, etc.

The author notes, “A large part of coming to terms with loss is dealing with our expectations of what ‘should have been.’ Until we articulate those expectations, we cannot move beyond them. We are stuck in the ‘Why me?’ litany.”

For me, I thought if we fed him the right food, kept him fit and trim {not easy for a pug}, showered him with love, took him in for all his vaccinations and vet needs, we’d have him until age 15. This expectation shaped my mind-set which contributed to the shock of a brain cancer diagnosis.

It’s not that we shouldn’t have had these hopes for our boy, but rather a reminder to acknowledge how little control we truly have. What we do have control over is our response to disappointment, tragedy, and loss.

Viktor Frankl wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning, “. . . everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way.”

And sometimes one’s way is to accept, rather than fight, what’s transpired.

While I miss Louis terribly, I celebrate our 10.5 years together. Although our new boy Mookie will never replace him, he offers a beautiful bond that has been desperately missed the past three months. Again, acceptance.

Is there a situation in your life that hasn’t worked out as you’d expected? You may be asking yourself “which one?!” as life can be full of them! What would acceptance look like in one of these situations?

Remember, acceptance doesn’t lessen the pain, but rather it curbs the continual striving for things to be different than they are. What beckons acceptance in your life?

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Thank you for being here with us. Bisous. x

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1.0 = 7.5 x 7.5 softcover
2.0 = 8.5 x 8.5 hardcover
3.0 = 8.5 x 8.5 softcover
4.0 = ?


The creation process of the Tranquility du Jour Daybook 4.0 is happening and I’d love your input.

My vision for the Daybook is to serve as a catch-all for dreams, day’s events, and deepest thoughts. A chance to pause and find pockets of tranquility within the busyness of daily life. To evoke joy when you use it and satisfaction when you check the boxes. And inspiration to get creative with ephemera, colored markers, and washi tape.

Last week I received a request to make 4.0 more like a workbook than a planner. I’ve also heard shout-outs for another hardcover, flexible plastic coils, and coated softcover.

What do you wish for 4.0? Please share. I’m listening and incredibly grateful for your continued contributions to its design. Bisous. x


Week in Review

July 24, 2015

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Week in Review

Road trip from NY to OK {20 hours}
Picked up Mookie the Rescue Pug from his sweet foster
Day trip to Norman, OK {my college town}
Relaxed time with parents while incorporating Mookie into our lives
Sprinkled some of Louis’ ashes at my parents
Road trip from OK to DC {20 hours}
Stopped at Johnny Cash Museum with Mookie
Set up appointment with trainer to assist with barking
Confirmed Writing in the Woods retreaters {one spot left}
Vet appointment with Mookie
Two full days with clients at The Women’s Center
Unpacked 10 days of travel
Created agenda for tomorrow’s Tranquil Space Foundation meeting
Signed up for The Daring Way Weekend for Clinicians
Shipped books and Daybooks
Picked apples and pears from my parent’s trees
Soaked in the tub
Savored green smoothies
Began 14-day cleanse
Began reading Writing to Heal the Soul
Picked up yellow tulips = happy
Got in trouble for jaywalking in Norman {see pic with nicest cop ever}
Penned Week 29 of 52 Weeks of Tranquility
Released Podcast #342 Creating Lucia

Weekend Wish List

Call with Teacher Director
Dog training
Productive Tranquil Space Foundation meeting
Organize chez moi
Volunteer at Hospice
Tea date with girlfriend
Meet with writing group
Time with journal

Et toi? What’s on your weekend wish list? Bisous. x