Everyday Tranquility {+ Giveaway}

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There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.—Shannon L. Alder

Over the past few weeks I’ve said goodbye to many things—a business I nurtured for 18 years, a therapy job and dear clients at a downtown center, a beloved neighborhood cat whose meow has been replaced with a shrine, and an office I’ve used since launching private practice. And these are just the ones at the top of my mind as I pen this post.

When I consider these changes, I’m reminded that change is the one constant in our lives and the ability to weather these shifts is what truly leads to everyday tranquility.

Sure, being surrounded by tranquility tools such as journals, cups of tea, flowers, books, and loved ones is divine, but those not-so-tranquil moments in between is when we’re tested and, ultimately, can grow.

For nearly two decades I’ve written about tranquility and shared numerous ways to find it in every day here on the blog, in the podcast, through books, and on retreats. Yet I’m learning that my ability to maintain a sense of tranquility is best when it’s not dependent on outside circumstances since they are constantly in flux.

I believe that what matters most is having a sense of tranquility deep within. A self-compassionate spirit that speaks kindly to oneself when under pressure and whispers a gentle, “bless your heart.”

I believe everyday tranquility is found through tiny pauses in between. For example, before diving into projects and seeing clients, I started today with a soak in the tub. Between clients and a meeting, I stopped into a local salad shop for a spinach, arugula, watermelon, and peach salad. As I type this, I’m sipping a green juice and facing the window to savor natural light. After seeing clients tonight, I’ll meet up with a girlfriend to see the Thich Nhat Hahn film, Walk With Me.

Sure, these are small every day sort of things, but they contribute to feeling grounded while the world whirls around me.

Life is not perfect. Change is hard. Loss stings. Flat surfaces in my home (such as those shown in these photos) are often covered with a thin layer of black pet hair and I eat too much sugar. As the above quote notes, “There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.”

I  believe everyday tranquility is found in our imperfection. Embrace what makes you uniquely you. Find your own voice. Live out loud and don’t apologize.

Wishing you deep, intimate moments of messy, everyday tranquility. Bisous. x

Giveaway: Share a takeaway from today’s post in the comments section below by Sunday, September 17 noon ET 11:59pm for a chance to win a free copy of Field Guide to Everyday Magic. The giveaway is open to U.S. residents. International participants are eligible to receive a free digital edition of Bella Grace. The winner will be chosen randomly and announced here on Sunday evening. Good luck!

30 comments

  1. Debra says:

    A beautiful post Kimberly, so happy I found you. What you’ve written is so very true. I have trouble with change and truthfully, I don’t deal well with it at all. Most likely why we still have not sold our too large home. Oh well, it will happen one day.
    Thank you for sharing …

  2. Helen says:

    A very good post. Thank you for continuing to inspire us to seek tranquility in the day to day. The day to day is a good place to find peace.

  3. Kimberly Wilson says:

    Thank you SO much for all of your thoughtful comments! WHAT a treat to see them trickle into my in box. The winner of this giveaway is DANA MAYE. Congrats, Dana! I’ll be in touch to get your snail mail shortly. Wishing all a beautiful week! xo

  4. Michelle says:

    Kimberly ,
    Many take aways on your post along with the sugar and pet hair .
    Learning to look around and be present and find those moments .
    To know that tranquility can happen in all the small moments .
    Having tea ,writing in the day book spending time with our beautiful animals .
    Thank you for sharing your journey .

  5. Fran D says:

    I loved the line, “I believe everyday tranquility is found in our imperfection. ” So true, and it has taken me many years to learn this lesson. These days I own my imperfections, embrace them, and just get on with enjoying life. Lets face it those imperfections are part of my personality, and way of life. It takes too much energy to try and be somebody else’s perfect everyday.

  6. Marjorie says:

    I laughed out loud with the honest admission ‘I eat too much sugar’ because I was nodding along with everything you shared and then I got to the sugar. THAT one has dogged me forever too. So thank you for being so willing to share your human qualities as well as your superhuman ones.:-) Love following your journey and support you in all you do and mostly in your ‘just’ being. xo

  7. Diane Farrow says:

    Bonjour 🎈

    I admire your courage to stop, take time to reflect, make changes, and release.

    “I felt in need of a great pilgrimage, so I sat still for 3 days.” Hafiz

    This tumultuous year seems to be a good time to stop and reflect, making changes where called upon. And beginning new things…

    And on a light note, Rumi says,
    “On a day when the wind is perfect, the sail just needs to open and the world is full of beauty. Today is such a day! ”

    You bring such tranquility and beauty to the world-thank you 🌠
    Diane

  8. Justine Hedgepeth says:

    Pause.
    That’s a big one!
    Look up, look around, be in this moment.
    “This is now” is mantra I repeat often, if it’s a joyous moment it reminds me to relish it.
    If it’s a tougher time, it reminds me that this too shall pass,

  9. Carrie says:

    I love the idea that “everyday tranquility” relies on being mindful of the little things that make us happy, healthy, and whole… and incorporating more of these little things into our daily lives to help us during the toughest of times. Shine on!

  10. Alice says:

    As someone who just recently lost her job of 32 years, this entire post spoke to me! Truly beautiful and meaningful and I thank you for it. If I had to pick one takeaway, though, I’d say self-care. Treat yourself with grace. Feed body and soul with beautiful produce, green juices, tonics, elixirs and such; have an occasional treat without guilt. Grieve for the losses that change brings, but enjoy the “new” life. You think you have all the time in the world, but it goes by in the blink of an eye, so take time to smell the roses as they say. I’m learning to embrace my newly-acquired 8 hours a day, filling my life with things that make me happy and feel at peace.

  11. Kirsten says:

    Kimberly,

    There were so many takeaways in the post but this one really spoke to me: “I believe everyday tranquility is found through tiny pauses in between.” Sometimes it is the tiny pauses that carry us through the day especially when having to deal with such issues as difficult bosses, losses of jobs or family. We may not have that large block of time but we may have a few minutes throughout the day.
    Sometimes it may be enough to have that tiny moment where we reach for a tool whether it be taking some deep breaths, lighting a candle, or petting our pets.

    Kirsten

  12. Lorraine says:

    Everyday things like a trip to the market for fresh fruit, tea,and a movie with a friend can keep one grounded while life swirls around us and through inevitable change. Sometimes those small, seemingly routine actions provide tranquility and a sense of calm.

  13. Colleen says:

    “…tranquility is found in our imperfection.” This struck me. I’m working through grief right now and I found this thought provoking.

  14. Dana Maye says:

    For me, my favorite quote and takeway from your post was: “Sure, being surrounded by tranquility tools such as journals, cups of tea, flowers, books, and loved ones is divine, but those not-so-tranquil moments in between is when we’re tested and, ultimately, can grow.”

    I love my tranquility tools and use them often. I love long candlelit baths, trips to the farmers market, yoga, retreats into nature, my vast rock collection, music, fine tipped markers and velvety leggings. But for me, I can get frustrated when all of my tools do not prevent pain and heartache. I often feel like I should be on top of everything.

    My brother-in-law is in the ICU, and my darling sister is juggling visiting him, caring for two kids, pregnancy, and paying for the bills. Even though it is not my pain, I have a hard time sleeping right now due to worry. I love her so much and want her to be happy.

    Your words were a reminder to me that it is okay to hurt -that pain is a form of love and growth. Tranquility tools are meant to ease, not prevent discomfort.

    I also loved the quote, “There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.—Shannon L. Alder.” It reminded me of the advice I gave my sister a few nights ago –It is okay to hurt. It’s all part of the process. That pain helps you to be a better mother and wife; not less. Just be gentle with yourself and know that you are doing a fantastic job at life. –I guess sisters often think alike. ❤️

    Thank you for your timely words, Kimberly!

  15. While I did have a lot of takeaways from this post, the most meaningful was your mention of the “black pet hair.” This year has been transformational for me as I welcomed my boyfriend (now fiance!) and his pup into my home. Prior to the cohabitation, I had been a bit of a neat-freak and, while I ADORE my new furry family member, I would stress about the hair and the mess. Fast-forward five months or so and I’ve embraced it fully. The little black hairs are a reminder that my house is now a home shared with the two loves of my life and I’ll take messy and loved over tidy and clean any day. Thank you for the beautiful post and congrats on all of your big life changes! How exciting for you!

  16. Christine says:

    My takeaway is that finding hidden moments throughout our day is where tranquility is nurtured and held sacred. Life get so busy but I always try to take, even just a moment or two to take deep breaths and get quiet..it brings me back to a calmer place even when nothing around me feels calm.

    I also appreciate what you said about being gentle with ourselves…I often say, “you can only do what you can do”. It reminds me that even though I am being asked to do a thousand things, I am not failing because they all can’t be done right now.

    So happy you took time to nurture yourself this summer and very happy to have you back with us <3

  17. mk danehey says:

    “Life is not perfect. Change is hard. Loss stings.” Life isn’t perfectly, but that is what makes it so beautiful. And maybe part of that is how we redefine “perfect.” Thanks for sharing and for the reminder!

  18. Kimberly W. says:

    I want to share a quote with you that I have loved, leaned on, and learned from for 30+ years. It immediately came to my mind after reading the quote in today’s love note from you and the one here.

    This quote is by Simone de Beauvoir : “Life is occupied in both perpetuating itself and in surpassing itself; if all it does is maintain itself, then living is only not dying.”

    How does it relate to tranquility you ask? To feel alive and keep up we have to be flexible and open to change. By doing this we can maintain a better handle on inner and outer tranquility in our life if that is our intention. A tranquil expression of our true nature or self flows with change rather than resist it or try to hold on to it as it is. And yes ,dear Kimberly Wilson, be gentle with yourself as you go along your path. Welcome back.

  19. Kimberly W. says:

    I want to share a quote with you that I have loved, leaned on, learned from and used for 30+ years. It immediately came to my mind after reading the quote in today’s love note from you and the one here.

    This quote is by Simone de Beauvoir : “Life is occupied in both perpetuating itself and in surpassing itself; if all it does is maintain itself, then living is only not dying.”

    How does it relate to tranquility you ask? To feel alive and keep up we have to be flexible and open to change. By doing this we can maintain a better handle on inner and outer tranquility in our life if that is our intention. A tranquil expression of our true nature or self flows with change rather than resist it or try to hold on to it as it is. And yes ,dear Kimberly Wilson, be gentle with yourself as you go along your path.

    Welcome back!

  20. Catherine says:

    This was a beautiful article and so needed today in my busy day! I read this after taking some time to eat lunch outside and enjoy the sunshine and pressing pause, even if just for a little bit. Thank you!

  21. Laura says:

    “Bless your heart” says so much more than we first perceive. I think this is key in a whirl of activity whether joyful , sorrowful, or anxious. Time for a small prayer;listening for what love can be added/ given at any moment in time. It’s why I relish reading your blog so much. The welcome mat is out, shaken,& refreshed to connect again!

  22. Hannah says:

    Thanks so much for this blog post, as it provided me a ton of inspiration and consolation during a time of major life change. I recently moved to CA from DC, will be starting a role as a newly certified yoga teacher (I was in the Fall 2016 TT2 class at Tranquil Space), and looking for a new full-time position within my field. These past few weeks have been the first time I’ve been unemployed in awhile, and it’s freeing but sometimes frightening to have so much time on my hands! The positive outcome is that even though there are frightening and uncertain moments, everyday I get closer to becoming the best version of myself and am learning to cherish/appreciate the ups and the downs.

    I’m so excited to see how your journey evolves as you continue to positively impact so many people’s lives. *Namaste*

  23. Blows me away you made time for a soak BEFORE tackling your to-do list! Genius! I work from home half the week, and I feel so guilty if I don’t put nose to the grindstone immediately at 8 am, yet here I am at nearly 10 pm brainstorming for tomorrow. Lol. I need to cut myself some slack and acknowledge I’m a hard worker, brilliant at what I do, and that taking some time to recharge will only make me better. Thanks for the reminder. And best of luck in all the changes you have going. You’ll be amazing at whatever you settle on. xox

  24. Gina Carpellotti says:

    I noticed that you made time for a nourishing lunch during your busy day. The importance of carving out the time in one’s busy schedule for nourishment and self-care is my takeaway.

    Cheers to all that you have achieved — and to what you will achieve!

  25. Kylie says:

    “I believe that what matters most is having a sense of tranquility deep within. A self-compassionate spirit that speaks kindly to oneself when under pressure and whispers a gentle, “bless your heart.”” Love this. Needed the reminder that the ultimate dose of tranquility comes from that place within – I need only grow still enough to hear.

  26. Cindy says:

    You really spoke to me today through this beautiful article! Your statement, “everyday tranquility is found in our imperfection” really hit home. I’m learning, slowly but surely to embrace my unique self and to follow my path and my heart, and you have been a big part of my evolution (so to speak). Thank you. <3

  27. Elizabeth says:

    I loved when you said Tranquility can be found in our imperfection. That is so profound! Most of us try to be perfect or to correct our imperfections daily only to become disapointed when we can’t keep up with it. This struck a cord in me, thank-you Kimberly.

  28. Laura T says:

    Kimberly,
    Having lived in three countries and moved six times (four of them international moves!!!) in the past six years, this speaks VOLUMES to me. I adore your philosophy of finding these every day moments of tranquility in everyday moments, and it’s something I’m constantly striving for. Yes, I feel more grounded when I’m I have a place to call home that has all my little creature comforts, but the truth is my life involves a lot of moving around and so I need to find ways to make any space (a hotel, temporary housing, an unfurnished apartment where I’m sleeping only on an air mattress!!) feel like home. Per your advice (I think it was on a tranquil travel packing list from your Daybook)I started bringing a small candle with me wherever I go, and I start my day with a few moments of candlelight movement and meditation. I would simply adore to win this giveaway! I have heard such lovely things about Bella Grace!

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